Being Bipolar brings heightened anxiety when the holidays come around. The issues regular people have, bring a twist that can be difficult to negotiate. Here are a few suggestions that might ease your way through the quagmire of human emotions, both yours and those of your loved ones.
Remember that “This too shall pass”. As hard as the holidays can be for some people, especially those with this disease, it helps to realize that a moment is just that, one that passes quickly to be replaced by another.
- God don’t make junk. When your ego is flagging, or criticism comes to bear, it is important to remember this short phrase.
- Pause – don’t forget to take some time out, even on the day when you are getting together with family or friends. When feeling overwhelmed, take a walk or go to a quiet room. If possible, and you really need to, leave and go home. Put yourself in your place of safety.
- Pray and meditate. It doesn’t matter what your religion is or isn’t. Say the Serenity Prayer.
- Bring a support person. A friend who “gets” you can make the difference between a difficult event and an enjoyable one.
- Put yourself in places or events where your soul feel’s nourished. Do special things you have been hankering to do…go to a Winter event that evokes good feelings. Even driving around to see the lights on other people’s homes is fun. Go with a group and it’s even better. Go Caroling. Take a long walk in a nature preserve. Build a snowman. Go to a play. Watch Christmas stories, especially the children’s ones.
- Explain your feelings if being criticized or put-down.
- Help others out. Nothing does more to bring the Spirit to life than extending a hand to someone in need.
- Eat healthy so you don’t have to shed those extra pounds for the next six months.
- Realize you are not alone. Many People have difficulty with the Holidays. It’s small comfort but it helps.
- Don’t imbibe too much alcohol or do drugs. It just aggravates the problem.
- Opt out. If you just can’t make yourself go, if family is just too difficult, do something else. Some churches and soup kitchens have holiday dinners. Make your own special meal. Invite friends over to your home.
The point is to bring the focus back on the meaning of the Holidays and make yourself comfortable as you go through them. You don’t have to do it “Their” way. Make it matter to you.