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Rebuilding your life after an emotional period

We all experience times when life’s challenges create sustained emotional upheaval. The strain of difficult times can bring out the worst in us. We treat those closest to us unfairly by pushing them away through our behaviors.  We might be angry, depressed, irritable or needy. It can serve as a wedge prying apart the fabric of our relationships.

When emotional upheaval is over, it comes time to knit our lives back together, growing and preserving that which sustains us. There are skills we can use to help. And those we care about will usually  respond with forgiveness and understanding.

Lessons drawn from 12th step programs can prove helpful.  Taking an inventory of our behavior and making creative amends is always a good beginning. If it seems overwhelming, find a good therapist to guide you.

Hopefully those we appeal to will be understanding and listen. But even if they can’t do that, it is an enormous relief to honestly and deeply assess your actions.  You may grieve over the ending of some relationships but you will know you have done all you could to make amends.

Introduce self-healing activities.  Caring for yourself through meditation and/ or exercise can go far toward making sure you don’t repeat the negativity.  If you have let your health suffer, gained or lost weight, adopt a healthy diet and lifestyle.

Look at your daily life and long-term goals. Are your expectations realistic or do they cause increased stress?  What might you change to develop stability and assure you are fulfilled? Maintain a focus on the present.  Take things one day or even one minute at a time.  And remember, no matter how hard things may feel right now, you can get through anything for one day. If that seems too much, compartmentalize moment by moment.

we all experience bumps, detours and unexpected stressors.  Life is not static.  It is fluid.  Whatever happened, you can move beyond it.  You can rebuild. You can experience beauty and growth during the worst situations.  Make sure you draw on your support system.  And always remember, this to shall pass.